Category: Self improvement

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    By Choitalyk Ruman

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  • The Light of Silence

    By Choitalyk Ruman

    When I begin to speak with You, my Lord,
    a tremor rises in the sky of my heart.
    It feels as though something vast is waiting,
    something no tongue can ever carry,
    no ear can ever fully receive.
    A truth that escapes the net of words,
    a hymn only silence knows.

    And then—suddenly,
    the words fall away.
    I am left with stillness,
    a stillness so deep
    it becomes my only voice.

    Before You, O my Lord,
    I stand stripped of every mask.
    Pride crumbles into dust,
    achievements scatter like broken glass,
    desires fade like shadows at dawn.
    What I clung to as color
    returns to pale dust.
    What I claimed as mine
    becomes nothing at all.

    This world with its glitter,
    its vanity and hunger,
    its painted dreams and fleeting triumphs,
    how easily they vanish in Your light.
    What seemed eternal
    proves to be smoke upon the river of time.

    And so it is with laughter and sorrow,
    with love and its shattering,
    with hope and the hollowness it leaves behind.
    All dissolve,
    like morning mist
    torn apart by an unseen wind.

    Yet one truth endures, one flame does not die:
    You.
    Only You.
    Beyond all measure,
    beyond all decay,
    only You remain.

    So I bring what little I have.
    I offer silence as my gift.
    I lift my unfallen tears as prayer.
    I lay down this fractured heart
    as an offering at Your feet.

    For You know already,
    every word before it takes shape,
    every thought before it finds breath.
    You know the wound behind the smile,
    the sorrow that hides behind steady eyes.
    You know the tears that never fall,
    the prayers that never cross the lips,
    the longing that burns
    only in the chamber of silence.

    O my Lord,
    You are the light within that silence.
    You are the companion who never leaves.
    You are the dwelling place of my soul,
    the beginning and the endless return.

    And so I rest in You.
    Not in triumph, not in despair,
    but in the quiet that holds all things.
    I rest in You,
    my silence,
    my prayer,
    my eternal Home#

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    #ChoitalykRuman, #ummeymiah 9/21/2025

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  • Standing on the Bright Side of Life: Choosing Hope and Resilience in the Face of Life’s Dualities

    I have tasted the sweetness and bitterness of life, savoring its joys and enduring its trials. The sunshine has warmed my soul, while the hailstorms have tested my resilience. I understand that darkness is an inevitable part of the human journey—an inescapable shadow that occasionally looms. Yet, I also know it is not a place where I am meant to dwell indefinitely.

    While I may not have the power to banish darkness completely, I hold the power to decide how I respond to it. When faced with the choice of where to root myself, I will always choose the bright side of life—the side where hope, love, and gratitude flourish.

    There, amidst the light, I will build my sanctuary. I will embrace the radiance and let it seep into my being. Even when the storms rage and shadows try to pull me back, I will remind myself that my true home is in the light. It is in that luminous space that I can grow, heal, and thrive, no matter what life brings my way.

    Life is a rich tapestry of experiences, woven together with moments of joy and sorrow, triumph and struggle. Each of us tastes the sweetness and bitterness that life offers, savoring the highs and enduring the lows. I have walked through sunlit meadows, basking in the warmth of happiness, and braved fierce hailstorms that tested my courage and resolve.

    Through these experiences, I have come to a profound realization: darkness is an inevitable part of life. It visits us all, unbidden and sometimes unrelenting. Yet, as much as I cannot escape the existence of darkness, I also know it is not a place where I must linger.

    The Pull of Darkness

    Darkness often carries an allure. It whispers that staying in its shadow requires less effort, that it is safer to remain hidden than to reach for the light. In moments of pain, loss, or despair, it can feel easier to succumb to the heaviness than to fight our way through it. But I’ve learned that staying too long in that space can rob us of the beauty and potential that life still holds.

    Choosing the Light

    When confronted with life’s challenges, I ask myself: Where do I belong? The answer is always the same. I belong on the bright side of life, where hope, joy, and possibility reside. But choosing this path is not always easy. It requires a conscious decision—a commitment to focus on what uplifts rather than what drags us down.

    Standing in the light doesn’t mean denying the existence of darkness. It doesn’t mean ignoring pain or pretending that struggles don’t exist. Rather, it’s about acknowledging those moments while refusing to let them define us. It’s about deciding to plant our feet on a foundation of hope, even when everything around us feels uncertain.

    Making the Bright Side Your Home

    Choosing the bright side of life isn’t just about moments of decision—it’s about creating a lasting mindset. It’s about making the light your home and anchoring yourself there. But how do we do this?

    Cultivate Gratitude: Even in the midst of storms, there is always something to be thankful for. Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to what we have, illuminating the blessings in our lives.

    Surround Yourself with Positivity: The people we spend time with and the environments we choose greatly impact our state of mind. Seek out relationships and spaces that nurture your spirit.

    Find Strength in Challenges: Every trial brings an opportunity for growth. The hailstorms of life may bruise us, but they also build resilience. View your challenges as stepping stones toward becoming your strongest self.

    Embrace the Present: Life’s sweetness is often found in its simplest moments—a kind word, a shared laugh, or the beauty of nature. By grounding yourself in the present, you create space for joy to flourish.

    Holding Onto Light During Dark Times

    There will still be moments when the darkness seems overwhelming, when the storms feel unending. In those times, remind yourself that light is always within reach. Seek the small sparks—an encouraging word, a favorite song, or a moment of quiet reflection. These sparks may seem insignificant, but together, they can guide you back to the brightness.

    A Journey Worth Taking

    The journey toward the bright side of life is ongoing. It’s not a destination you arrive at and remain forever, but a choice you make every day. With each decision to stand in the light, you strengthen your ability to face life’s storms and savor its joys.

    I have learned to accept life’s duality—the interplay of sunshine and hailstorms, sweetness, and bitterness. I know I can not escape darkness entirely, but I can refuse to make my home within its shadow. Instead, I will always strive to stand in the light, to make the bright side of life my sanctuary. And from that place of warmth and hope, I will find the strength to face whatever comes my way.

    • #ChoitalykRuman 
    • #UmmeyMiah
  • Embracing Change: Discovering the Beauty in Life’s Uncertainty”

    Life has a way of testing us, often in unexpected and challenging ways. It’s like a storm that catches you off guard—one moment, you’re enjoying a gentle breeze, and the next, you’re battling fierce winds that seem determined to knock you down. Just when it feels like everything is falling into place, when you finally catch a glimpse of peace and think, “This is it, I’ve found my balance,” life shakes things up again, reminding you that nothing stays the same for long.

    We’ve all experienced it—the frustration of taking a step forward only to be pushed two steps back. Life isn’t just about smooth paths and gentle winds; it’s also about rough roads, difficult moments, and harsh lessons that test us to our core. These times can leave us feeling lost, questioning our purpose, and wondering where we truly belong.

    But in the midst of these challenges, I’ve found comfort in a simple truth: change is inevitable. No matter how hard or painful the moment, it will pass. This reminder has become a quiet mantra for me, a grounding thought that keeps me going through life’s uncertainties. It’s a message that when things are tough, they won’t stay that way forever, and that we have the power to adapt, rebuild, and rise stronger.

    This truth applies equally to the good times. When life feels calm and joyful, I’ve learned not to take it for granted. Instead, I remind myself to savor these moments, to embrace them fully, knowing that they, too, are part of life’s ebb and flow. It’s not about living in fear of what’s to come, but about deeply appreciating the present—understanding that life’s beauty is often found in its fleeting, precious moments.

    The constancy of change brings a certain kind of beauty. It keeps us humble during the highs and gives us hope during the lows. Much like standing at the edge of an ocean—some days calm, some days wild—the tides remind us that life is always moving, always evolving. And in that movement, we find our own strength to grow, adapt, and transform.

    So, whether you’re in a season of joy or struggle, know that this moment is temporary. It’s not your forever. Life is a journey of unfolding chapters, and each page brings something new. If things are going well, celebrate the now, cherish the joy, and live fully in the moment. And if you’re facing a storm, remember that every storm eventually passes, leaving behind the promise of brighter days.

    Hold on to hope, even when it feels distant. Whether through prayer, faith, or simply trusting the natural rhythm of life, know that you have the strength to endure. You have the resilience to heal, the capacity to love again, and the courage to keep moving forward.

    Change is inevitable, but so is your ability to grow and find joy again. Trust the process, embrace the journey, and keep your heart open to the beauty that’s always waiting around the corner. Life, with all its challenges, also offers constant moments of wonder and grace—you just have to be ready to see them.

    • #ChoitalykRuman
  • Accepting Change: See the Elegant in the Unpredictability of Life

    Life has a way of testing us, often in unexpected and challenging ways. It’s like a storm that catches you off guard—one moment, you’re enjoying a gentle breeze, and the next, you’re battling fierce winds that seem determined to knock you down. Just when it feels like everything is falling into place, when you finally catch a glimpse of peace and think, “This is it, I’ve found my balance,” life shakes things up again, reminding you that nothing stays the same for long.

    We’ve all experienced it—the frustration of taking a step forward only to be pushed two steps back. Life isn’t just about smooth paths and gentle winds; it’s also about rough roads, difficult moments, and harsh lessons that test us to our core. These times can leave us feeling lost, questioning our purpose, and wondering where we truly belong.

    But in the midst of these challenges, I’ve found comfort in a simple truth: change is inevitable. No matter how hard or painful the moment, it will pass. This reminder has become a quiet mantra for me, a grounding thought that keeps me going through life’s uncertainties. It’s a message that when things are tough, they won’t stay that way forever, and that we have the power to adapt, rebuild, and rise stronger.

    This truth applies equally to the good times. When life feels calm and joyful, I’ve learned not to take it for granted. Instead, I remind myself to savor these moments, to embrace them fully, knowing that they, too, are part of life’s ebb and flow. It’s not about living in fear of what’s to come, but about deeply appreciating the present—understanding that life’s beauty is often found in its fleeting, precious moments.

    The constancy of change brings a certain kind of beauty. It keeps us humble during the highs and gives us hope during the lows. Much like standing at the edge of an ocean—some days calm, some days wild—the tides remind us that life is always moving, always evolving. And in that movement, we find our own strength to grow, adapt, and transform.

    So, whether you’re in a season of joy or struggle, know that this moment is temporary. It’s not your forever. Life is a journey of unfolding chapters, and each page brings something new. If things are going well, celebrate the now, cherish the joy, and live fully in the moment. And if you’re facing a storm, remember that every storm eventually passes, leaving behind the promise of brighter days.

    Hold on to hope, even when it feels distant. Whether through prayer, faith, or simply trusting the natural rhythm of life, know that you have the strength to endure. You have the resilience to heal, the capacity to love again, and the courage to keep moving forward.

    Change is inevitable, but so is your ability to grow and find joy again. Trust the process, embrace the journey, and keep your heart open to the beauty that’s always waiting around the corner. Life, with all its challenges, also offers constant moments of wonder and grace—you just have to be ready to see them.

    • #ChoitalykRuman
  • The Hidden Gift of Painful Endings: How to Embrace New Beginnings

    Life has a way of surprising us. One moment, everything seems to be in its place, and the next, the very foundation we stand on feels like it’s crumbling. Whether it’s the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or even the close of a cherished chapter in our lives, these moments can leave us feeling lost, hurt, and overwhelmed.

    It’s natural to grieve during these times. Painful endings are just that—painful. They challenge our sense of stability and security, leaving us questioning, “Where do I go from here?”

    But here’s a secret that life teaches us time and again: new beginnings are often disguised as these very endings.

    When Life Forces You to Pause

    When we encounter loss or disappointment, it’s as though life forces us to pause and reflect. The disruption gives us no choice but to stop and assess where we are and where we want to be. It may not feel like it at first, but these interruptions are opportunities in disguise.

    They ask us to re-evaluate our priorities, understand our true desires, and step out of our comfort zones. It’s in these moments of discomfort that we begin to grow.

    Why Pain is a Path to Growth

    Think about it—without the pain of outgrowing old situations, would we ever feel compelled to step into something new? It’s in the struggle that we learn our strength. Pain is not a sign of failure; it’s a sign of transformation.

    As humans, we are wired to resist change. But without it, we become stagnant. Just as a seed must break apart in the dark soil before it can grow into a mighty tree, we too must face the darkness of painful endings to blossom into our fullest potential.

    The Light at the End of the Tunnel

    The beauty of every ending is that it holds the promise of a beginning. Think back to times in your life when you thought something was over for good—when you couldn’t possibly imagine life being any different. Yet here you are, standing stronger, wiser, and more aware of your own resilience.

    Those moments that once felt like the end of your world? They were the birth of a new version of you.

    Embrace the Unknown

    The unknown can be terrifying, but it is also where life’s magic happens. Instead of fearing what’s next, what if we learned to embrace it with curiosity and openness? What if we could trust that something better is waiting on the other side?

    It’s not easy to shift our perspective when we’re in the midst of heartache, but it is possible. By focusing on what lies ahead rather than what we’ve left behind, we open ourselves up to endless possibilities. The pain we feel in the present is simply part of the journey to something greater.

    Trust the Process

    In moments of ending, the mind wants answers. It wants to know why something had to happen and how the future will unfold. But part of the healing process is learning to trust without having all the answers. Life unfolds in ways we can’t always predict, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t guiding us to where we’re meant to be.

    So, the next time you find yourself facing an ending, remember this: it’s not the end of your story. It’s merely the end of a chapter. And like any great story, the best is yet to come.

    Your Turn

    What are some of the endings in your life that eventually led to a beautiful new beginning? Share your thoughts in the comments below—I’d love to hear your experiences.

    • #ChoitalykRuman  9/76/2024 12:30 am

  • The Endless Journey of Learning: Embracing Humility and Openness

    In the ever-evolving landscape of knowledge, there is a powerful truth that often gets overlooked: the more we learn, the more we realize how much we don’t know. Accepting this reality is not only humbling but also essential for true growth. Learning isn’t a destination; it’s a continuous journey. To truly embrace this journey, we must cultivate an openness to new information and an understanding that our current knowledge is never complete

    The Power of Admitting You Don’t Know Everything:

    Many of us cling to the idea that our knowledge is sufficient, that our understanding of the world is solid and unshakable. This belief can become a barrier, preventing us from exploring new ideas and perspectives. However, admitting that we don’t know everything is not a sign of weakness—it’s a strength. It opens the door to deeper insights and broader horizons. When we accept that our understanding may be limited or even flawed, we create space for growth.

    Unlearning: The Key to Relearning:

    Learning is not just about acquiring new information; sometimes, it’s about letting go of what we think we know. This process of unlearning is crucial because it allows us to discard outdated or incorrect beliefs that no longer serve us. Unlearning requires humility, a willingness to challenge our own assumptions, and the courage to embrace new perspectives. Only then can we relearn, gaining fresh, more accurate, and often more profound insights.

    Staying Receptive to New Information:

    world, it’s easy to become overwhelmed or complacent. But to remain effective learners, we must stay curious and open-minded. This means actively seeking out new knowledge, engaging with different viewpoints, and being willing to revise our beliefs in light of new evidence. The moment we stop being receptive to new information is the moment we stop growing.

    Learning from Unexpected Teachers:

    It’s often said that everyone we meet has something to teach us. But what about those people who challenge us, frustrate us, or even make us angry? These individuals can become our greatest teachers if we let them. By learning to open our hearts and minds, we can turn even difficult interactions into valuable lessons. They teach us patience, empathy, and resilience. They push us to reflect on our own behaviors and attitudes, leading to personal growth.

    The Infinite Potential of an Open Mind:

    Ultimately, the journey of learning is infinite. The more we learn, the more we uncover the vastness of what we have yet to understand. By embracing humility, unlearning old beliefs, and staying open to new ideas, we unlock our potential for endless growth. Remember, learning isn’t about reaching an endpoint; it’s about expanding our minds and hearts in ways we never thought possible. And when we approach life with this mindset, even those who drive us insane can become our greatest teachers.

    Conclusion:

    In a world that is constantly changing, our greatest asset is not just the knowledge we possess, but our ability to remain open to learning, unlearning, and relearning. By embracing humility, we acknowledge that our understanding is never complete, and by staying curious, we continue to grow in ways that enrich our lives and the lives of those around us. The journey of learning is endless, and the more we commit to it, the more we discover the depth of what it means to be truly human. So, let us approach each day with an open mind and an open heart, ready to learn from every experience—and every person—we encounter. After all, our greatest lessons often come from the most unexpected places.

    By #ChoitalykRuman  9/3/2024

  • Breaking Free from the Chains of Others’ Opinions

    Have you ever found yourself hesitating, holding back from expressing your true self because you were worried about what others might think? Perhaps you chose not to speak up, or maybe you molded your actions to fit the expectations of those around you. It’s a natural human tendency—we all want to be liked, respected, and accepted. But there’s a hidden cost to this constant concern about others’ opinions, a price that many of us pay without even realizing it.

    When you care too much about what others think, you unknowingly hand over the keys to your freedom. You allow their judgments to dictate your choices, your actions, and ultimately, your happiness. In doing so, you become a slave to their expectations, trapped in a cycle of seeking approval and validation.

    But what if there was another way? What if you could live a life that is truly your own, free from the burden of others’ opinions?

    The truth is, no one’s opinion of you should matter more than your own. When you place your self-worth in the hands of others, you give them control over your life. You become a performer, acting out a script written by someone else, rather than the author of your own story.

    Imagine the liberation that comes from letting go of this need for approval. It’s not about disregarding others completely or becoming indifferent to their feelings—far from it. It’s about recognizing that their opinions are just that: opinions. They are reflections of their own perspectives, experiences, and insecurities, not a measure of your worth.

    The path to true freedom begins with self-acceptance. When you embrace who you are, with all your strengths and imperfections, you no longer need to seek validation from outside sources. You become your own anchor, steady and sure, regardless of the tides of others’ judgments.

    This doesn’t mean the journey will be easy. Letting go of the need for approval is a process, one that requires courage and self-awareness. It means facing the discomfort of being misunderstood, criticized, or even rejected. But in the end, the reward is worth it—a life lived on your own terms, filled with the authenticity and joy that comes from being true to yourself.

    So, the next time you find yourself worrying about what others might think, pause and ask yourself: Whose life am I living? Am I making choices that honor my true self, or am I conforming to the expectations of others ?

    Remember, you are the author of your own story. Don’t let anyone else hold the pen.

    By #ChoitalykRuman #CR 8/31/2024

  • The Real Problem Isn’t What You Believe—It’s What You Think I Should Believe

    In today’s world, where opinions and beliefs are more easily shared than ever, we often encounter differences in perspectives. Whether it’s on social media, in casual conversations, or even within our closest relationships, it’s easy to find ourselves at odds with others over what we believe. But what if the real issue isn’t the diversity of our beliefs? What if the real problem lies in our insistence that others must see the world as we do?

    The Nature of Belief:

    Beliefs are the invisible threads that weave together the fabric of our reality. They are the deeply held convictions that shape our thoughts, actions, and interactions with the world. Our beliefs are born from our personal experiences, our upbringing, and the various influences we’ve encountered along our journey. Each person’s belief system is as unique as their fingerprint, a reflection of the myriad factors that have molded them.

    It’s important to recognize that belief is a deeply personal matter. What I believe is my truth, just as what you believe is yours. Our beliefs are the internal compass that guides us, providing a sense of direction and purpose. They give us a framework to understand the world and our place in it.

    The Danger of Imposing Beliefs:

    The problem arises not when we hold different beliefs, but when we begin to impose our beliefs on others. This imposition often comes from a place of conviction or even concern. We might believe that our way of thinking is the ‘right’ way, and naturally, we want others to see things the same way. However, this insistence can lead to conflict and division.

    When we impose our beliefs on others, we disregard the individuality and autonomy of those around us. We fail to acknowledge that their beliefs are just as valid and significant as our own. This imposition creates a barrier to understanding and compassion, leading to arguments, resentment, and sometimes even the breakdown of relationships.

    Respecting the Diversity of Belief:

    True harmony in any relationship—whether personal, professional, or societal—does not come from uniformity of thought, but from respect for diversity. It’s not necessary for everyone to agree on everything. In fact, our differences can be a source of strength, offering a broader perspective and a deeper understanding of the world.

    Respecting someone’s beliefs doesn’t mean we have to agree with them. It simply means acknowledging that their beliefs are a valid part of their identity, just as ours are for us. This respect fosters an environment where open dialogue can occur, where we can discuss our differences without feeling the need to change each other’s minds.

    Moving Toward Understanding:

    Instead of focusing on convincing others to adopt our beliefs, we can shift our focus toward understanding their perspectives. Ask questions with genuine curiosity, listen with the intent to understand rather than to respond, and appreciate the diversity of thought that exists in the world.

    By embracing this approach, we create a space where everyone feels heard and valued, where our differences are celebrated rather than seen as obstacles. This is the foundation of true peace and understanding.

    Conclusion:

    What you believe is not the problem; your beliefs are your personal truths, guiding you through life. The real issue arises when we assume that others must share our beliefs, when we impose our perspective on those around us. By recognizing and respecting the diversity of belief, we can foster deeper connections and create a world where understanding and compassion prevail over conflict and division.

    Let’s remember that it’s not about changing each other’s minds, but about walking together in mutual respect and understanding. In the end, it’s our shared humanity that matters most.