Choitalyk Ruman's Corner

Tag: #balanceinlife

  • The Story of a Woman Named Tahura

    By Choitalyk Ruman

    I have a friend named Tahura. Full name was Tahura Parvin. For as long as I can remember, she had been searching for love. She always believed that somewhere out there was someone who would make her whole, someone who could finally fill the emptiness she often felt inside.

    But over time, she began to notice something. Attraction was not love-it could appear quickly and just as quickly fade away. Longing was not love either — it was only temporary. The rush of excitement, the nervous energy, even the sweetest promises — all of these, too, could change or break with time.

    After many rises and falls in her life, one evening Tahura had a realization. Love was never outside of her. Love was not a thing to be given or taken, but a quiet field within her, always present. In that field lived joy and sorrow, hope and despair, beginnings and endings. Relationships might stay or dissolve, people might come and go — but the field itself never disappeared.

    She understood then: no one had ever “given” her love. In truth, she had only touched her own vastness when she was with another, and then she had mistakenly credited them for it. And when she thought love was gone, it hadn’t actually left — she had simply forgotten the field within. Love, she saw, was like the ocean, unchanged beneath the rise and fall of waves.

    Today, Tahura no longer searches for love outside herself. She has learned to live as the light. Instead of clinging to another’s affection, she finds joy in giving love freely. Her greatest discovery has been this: what she longed for all along was already inside her.

    With a gentle smile she often says,
    “The search begins and ends in the same place — in presence. I realized that I am love itself, and once I knew that, everything changed.

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  • Chains of Mercy

    By ChoitalykRuman

    I believe in Love—
    the breath that moves the stars,
    the secret fire hidden
    within the clay of being.

    I swear by Love—
    for every oath dissolves
    except the one
    that Love itself whispers.

    Believe me, my Love,
    I am nothing without You.
    This soul is a reed flute,
    hollowed only to sing Your song.

    How long must I wander,
    a prisoner of grief,
    pleading for the drop of Mercy
    that turns dust into rose?

    Break these veils,
    let the heart dissolve in Your sea.
    What is grief, what is mercy,
    when only Love remains?

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  • The Struggle is Resistance: Embracing the Power of Your Breath

    These are confusing times. It’s no surprise if you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Life seems to be demanding more from us than ever, pulling us in multiple directions. But in the midst of this chaos, there is one constant—a gentle reminder that we are still alive, that we still have power within us: our breath.

    Take a deep breath now. Feel the air entering your body. Imagine that, with every inhale, you are drawing in vitality, strength, and clarity. Your breath is always a reflection of you. It tells the story of where you are in this moment.

    Now, pause. Observe this inhale without judgment, without trying to change it. How do you feel? Does your breath come easily? Is it nourishing, or does it feel strained? When our breath feels restricted, it’s often a sign that we’re struggling with life’s pressures, feeling as if we can’t take in enough—enough air, enough peace, enough balance.

    And that’s okay.

    The key here is to observe rather than judge. Be curious about what your breath is telling you. Now, let’s move to the exhale. Just as the inhale represents our ability to take in life, the exhale reflects how we let go. Are you able to release the air gently, or do you feel like you’re forcing it out? Do you hold on tightly to your breath, to your stress, to your thoughts?

    Exhaling is about letting go—not just of air but of tension, negativity, and everything we no longer need. With each breath out, imagine releasing the weight that burdens your heart and mind. When you learn to exhale fully and with ease, you create space for balance and peace.

    In this moment, be gentle with yourself. Life can be noisy and confusing, but you are not alone. You are a child of the universe, a miraculous creation of the Divine—yes, the One God. You are no less a part of this universe than the trees, the stars, or the vast oceans. And just like them, you have a place in this world.

    When life becomes overwhelming, remember to keep peace in your soul. Return to your heart, because your heart is your true home, an endless ocean of love, kindness, tenderness, and compassion. That place within you is where you recharge, where your soul finds nourishment. Visit it often.

    If I can do this, so can you. We all have untapped potential within us, waiting to be discovered. The beauty of life is that this journey of self-discovery is always available to us, even in the most challenging times. All you need to do is breathe, pause, and remember who you are.