Choitalyk Ruman's Corner

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  • When Life Feels Heavy, Gratitude Brings the Light Bac

    By Choitalyk Ruman

    For a long time, I used to think gratitude simply meant saying thank you. Someone helps you , you thank them. Something good happens , you express appreciation. Simple.

    But life, in its quiet and often difficult way, taught me something deeper: gratitude isn’t just a polite response. It’s a way of seeing. A way of living.

    We all go through days that feel impossibly heavy , when the air itself feels thick, and even ordinary tasks take too much energy. You wake up, sip your coffee, stare at the same walls, and wonder, “When will this feeling pass?”

    Have you ever had one of those mornings ; when nothing feels right, when even the light outside seems dull?

    I remember one of those times vividly. Everything in my life seemed to crumble at once ; plans failed, relationships shifted, and I couldn’t see any way forward. I was just… surviving.

    One morning, I heard a bird singing outside my window. Nothing special, it was a sound I’d heard a thousand times before. But that day, it stopped me. It felt like a tiny reminder whispering, “Not everything is broken.”

    And that’s when I began to understand:
    Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the hard things. It’s about recognizing the light that still exists , even when the world feels dim.

    When we start noticing the small things ;the warm cup of tea in our hands, a message from a friend, the sound of laughter nearby , something shifts inside us. The sharp edges of pain begin to soften. The world doesn’t change, but our eyes do.

    Gratitude doesn’t mean pretending life is perfect. It means realizing that even in imperfection, there is beauty. Even when something ends, something else quietly begins.

    Some days, gratitude is just a whisper:
    “I’m still here.”
    “I still have something to hold onto.”

    And that whisper is enough to keep us moving forward.

    So, take a moment today.
    Pause. Look around.
    Maybe your reason to smile is already right there , in the morning light, in the smell of fresh rain, or in someone’s gentle presence.

    Beauty never truly disappears.
    It just waits , patiently , for us to notice it again.

    What are three things you feel grateful for today?

    1. When was the last time a small moment changed your mood completely?
    2. Has gratitude ever helped you see something painful in a new light?

    Share your thoughts in the coments, your story might be the light someone else needs today..

  • Gratitude Changes Our Whole Perspective

    By Choitalyk Ruman

    There are days when everything feels heavy , like the air itself is thicker, and even simple things take more effort. You wake up, make your coffee, and wonder how to hold it all together. Yet, sometimes, in the middle of that quiet struggle, a small reminder appears , a bird’s song outside your window, the way the morning light spills across the floor, or a kind word from someone you didn’t expect.

    It’s strange how gratitude often hides in those tiny, ordinary things. It doesn’t ask us to ignore what hurts. It doesn’t magically fix the hard parts of life. But it does something gentler , it changes the way we see.

    When we start paying attention to what’s still good, even if it’s small, the sharp edges of pain soften a bit. The world feels a little less gray. We remember that loss and love can live side by side, that sadness can share space with wonder. Gratitude doesn’t erase the darkness, but it reminds us that light still exists and it’s closer than we think.

    Sometimes, gratitude is just whispering, “I’m still here. I still have something.” It’s realizing that even when plans fall apart, or people drift away, there are still reasons  however fragile  to keep believing in life’s goodness.

    So today, pause for a second. Look around.
    Maybe your reason to smile is sitting quietly right in front of you  a familiar smell, a memory, a small kindness.

    The truth is, beauty never fully disappears. It just waits for us to notice it again.

  • Where You Focus, You Grow

    Life has its ups and downs—there’s no escaping that. You’ll face difficulties, moments of sorrow, and times when things don’t go your way. That’s just part of the journey. But where you choose to place your focus can make all the difference.

    I remember a time when I felt completely overwhelmed. It was a few years ago, and everything seemed to be falling apart at once. Work was stressful, my personal life felt uncertain, and I was struggling to keep up. One evening, I sat alone, staring at the walls of my small apartment, feeling exhausted and drained. My mind was filled with worries—”What if things don’t get better? What if I fail? What if this heaviness never lifts?”

    The more I focused on these thoughts, the heavier they became. I lost sleep, I lost motivation, and worst of all, I lost sight of the beauty around me. My world felt gray, as if all the light had faded.

    Then, one afternoon, something shifted. I was walking through a nearby park, lost in my worries, when I noticed a little girl running ahead of her mother. She stopped suddenly, crouched down, and marveled at something on the ground. Curious, I slowed my pace and looked closer. It was a tiny yellow flower, growing through a crack in the pavement.

    I don’t know why, but in that moment, something clicked. That little flower had found a way to bloom despite its harsh surroundings. It didn’t wait for perfect conditions; it grew right where it was. And if a flower could do that, why couldn’t I?

    That evening, instead of focusing on my problems, I made a small shift. I asked myself, What have I learned from this struggle? How have I grown? What in my life, right now, is still beautiful? I started keeping a journal, writing down one thing each day that I was grateful for, no matter how small.

    Some days, it was just the sound of rain on my window or a kind word from a stranger. Other days, it was a deep realization about myself—how I had become stronger, more patient, more understanding. The more I focused on these moments, the lighter I felt. My problems didn’t magically disappear, but they no longer consumed me. Instead of draining me, they became stepping stones for my growth.

    That’s the power of focus. If you constantly dwell on your problems, they start to feel bigger, heavier, and more consuming. But if you shift your attention to what you’re learning and the beauty that still exists, you’ll begin to see life differently.

    Challenges come with lessons—lessons that make you wiser, stronger, and more resilient. Every hardship holds a hidden gift, a chance for growth, if you choose to see it. Instead of letting difficulties steal your joy, allow them to shape you into a better version of yourself.

    Life is a balance. Nothing lasts forever—not the good times, but also not the bad ones. So, in the midst of your struggles, don’t forget to acknowledge the blessings you still have. Look around and find something to be grateful for, even in the smallest details. Gratitude shifts your perspective, allowing you to see life’s gifts more clearly.

    And here’s the beautiful thing: when you focus on the good, you naturally open yourself up to more goodness. You become more creative, more courageous, and more inspired. Your energy flows where your attention goes. So why not direct it toward something that uplifts you?

    Let life teach you, not break you. Trust in the process, find joy in the present, and keep your heart open to all the beauty still unfolding.

    –#ChoitalykRuman  3/20/2025 10:11PM

  • Finding Strength and Peace in Uncertain Times

    There is no doubt that the COVID-19 pandemic has shaken the world, filling many hearts with fear and uncertainty. However, rather than allowing worry to consume us, we can choose to channel our energy into something far more meaningful—healing. Our planet, our communities, and even our own inner world are in need of healing now more than ever. Fear weakens us, while faith strengthens us. At this moment, we have the choice to either panic or trust that everything is unfolding according to a higher plan.

    This moment in time has given us a unique opportunity: a chance to pause. Instead of dwelling on fear, let’s embrace stillness and use this time to reflect, pray, and send love to Mother Earth. The world moves so fast that we often forget to nurture the very essence of life around us. Now, as we are asked to stay home, let’s use this period wisely—to reconnect with God, to uplift others with our prayers, and to send out healing energy. Each one of us can contribute to a positive shift simply by focusing on love and compassion rather than fear.

    Blame will not serve us. Pointing fingers and fueling division will not bring solutions, only more distress. What will truly make a difference is our collective intention to heal and support one another. Let us replace blame with prayer, fear with faith, and doubt with trust. With God, nothing is impossible. If we focus on the good, even in times of crisis, we become part of the healing process rather than the problem. Now is the time to unite, to lift each other up, and to choose hope over despair.

    Moreover, this pandemic is a reminder of life’s fragility. It has shown us how interconnected we all are and how important it is to appreciate the little things—breathing fresh air, sharing laughter with loved ones, and feeling the warmth of the sun on our skin. Life is fleeting, a precious gift given to us with each breath we take. Why waste it in fear? Instead, let’s fill our days with gratitude and purpose. Every step we take, every action we perform, can be a dedication to our Creator. True happiness does not come from control over circumstances but from trust in God’s wisdom and the ability to surrender to His divine plan.

    So, let us not be afraid. Let us be cautious, yes, but not consumed by fear. Instead, let’s embody courage, faith, and wisdom. This too shall pass, and when it does, may we emerge from it stronger, more compassionate, and more deeply connected to the essence of life itself. Let’s use this time to become more mindful, to nurture our souls, and to strengthen our connection with the Divine. Trust the process, and remember—you are never alone. Even in the darkest times, light is always present for those who seek it.-

    -#ChoitalykRuman 03/11/2025

    #UmmeyMiah

  • Making Every Moment Matter: The Power of Small Acts of Kindness

    Life is a fleeting journey. We enter this world with nothing and eventually leave it behind, but what truly defines us is how we spend the time in between. Each of us is given a unique opportunity to shape our existence, not just for ourselves but for those around us. Our purpose should go beyond mere survival—we should strive to make every moment count by using our intellect, passion, and kindness to uplift others.

    The Power of Small Actions

    Many people believe that making a difference requires grand gestures, immense wealth, or a large platform. But the truth is, even the smallest acts of kindness can create ripples that extend far beyond what we can see. You don’t have to change the entire world; changing one person’s world is enough. One step at a time, one person at a time, one kind action at a time—that is how true transformation begins.

    Being kind doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice everything or take on the burdens of the world. It simply means opening your heart to others, recognizing their struggles, and offering whatever support you can. Sometimes, it’s a helping hand, a word of encouragement, or simply showing up for someone in need.

    Ways to Make a Meaningful Impact

    There are countless ways to help others and add meaning to your own life. Here are a few simple but profound ways to make a difference:

    Help Someone Rebuild Financial Stability – Many people struggle to make ends meet, not because they lack effort, but because they lack knowledge or opportunities. If you have financial wisdom, share it. Teach someone how to save, budget, or invest wisely. A simple conversation about money management could help them regain control over their finances.

    Restore Someone’s Dignity – People who have fallen on hard times often feel invisible or ashamed. A kind word, a respectful interaction, or simply treating them with the dignity they deserve can mean the world. Remind them of their worth by showing them kindness without judgment.

    Guide Others Toward the Right Path – Sometimes, people lose their way, whether due to hardship, negative influences, or lack of guidance. If you have the wisdom to share, do so with love. Offer advice, mentor someone, or be a role model. You never know how much one piece of guidance can change the course of someone’s life.

    Encourage Love Over Hate – The world is full of division, yet love remains the most powerful force for change. Instead of fueling negativity, be the person who encourages others to choose love, compassion, and understanding. Whether it’s diffusing an argument, offering a different perspective, or simply showing kindness to someone with opposing views, your actions can inspire change.

    Help Someone Rebuild Their Life – Life’s hardships—such as job loss, divorce, or unexpected tragedies—can leave people feeling lost. If you can, be the person who helps them stand back up. Offer guidance, listen with an open heart, and remind them that they are not alone.

    Create Opportunities for Others – One of the most powerful ways to help someone is to provide them with opportunities to grow. If you are in a position to offer a job, recommend someone for a role, or teach them a new skill, do so. Empowering someone to support their family and build a future for themselves is one of the greatest gifts you can give.

    Every Act of Kindness Matters

    In a world where many are struggling—whether financially, emotionally, or spiritually—your kindness could be the beacon of hope that changes a life. It doesn’t take much. A kind word. A small favor. A moment of understanding. These are the things that truly matter.

    You don’t have to be wealthy, famous, or powerful to make a difference. You just need a heart that cares and the willingness to act. Even the smallest ripple of kindness can create waves of change.

    So, as you go through life, ask yourself: How can I make this moment matter? What small act of kindness can I do today? The impact of your actions will live on, far beyond what you may ever see.

    Let’s create a world where kindness is the norm, love is the foundation, and every moment is spent making a difference.

    By – #ChoitalykRuman

    #UmmeyMiah

  • Embracing Compassion: Understanding and Forgiving Negative Influences in Our Lives

    In life, we encounter individuals whose primary function seems to be spreading unhappiness, disappointment, and criticism. It’s natural to feel upset by their actions, but it’s important not to take it personally. Instead, we should strive to forgive them, recognizing that they too are part of humanity’s journey towards awakeni

    These individuals, while challenging, embody the struggles of egoic consciousness. They exist in a state of non-surrender, where negativity and criticism seem to be their default mode of operation. However, it’s crucial to remember that this behavior is not a reflection of who they truly are as individuals.

    Rather than being surprised when faced with their negativity, we should learn to accept it as part of life’s ebb and flow. It’s a journey for them as much as it is for us, and they too will learn to evolve and go with the flow over time.

    In practicing forgiveness, we grant them the opportunity to grow and change. It’s not about condoning their behavior but rather about freeing ourselves from the burden of resentment and anger. By extending compassion towards them, we release ourselves from the cycle of negativity and allow space for positivity to flourish.

    Surrounding ourselves with positive influences is also crucial for maintaining our own well-being. Spending time with people who uplift and support us can help counteract the effects of negativity from others. By cultivating a supportive network, we create an environment where encouragement and positivity thrive.

    Understanding and forgiving negative influences in our lives is essential for our own growth and well-being. By recognizing the humanity in those who spread unhappiness and criticism, we can cultivate compassion and create a more positive world for ourselves and others.

    It’s important to remember that each individual is on their own journey of self-discovery and growth. While some may be further along the path than others, we all face challenges and obstacles along the way. By acknowledging this shared humanity, we can foster empathy and understanding towards those who may still be struggling with negativity and criticism.

    Furthermore, embracing forgiveness doesn’t mean subjecting ourselves to repeated mistreatment or toxicity. Setting healthy boundaries is crucial for maintaining our own mental and emotional well-being. It’s okay to limit our exposure to negative influences and prioritize our own self-care. By honoring our boundaries with compassion and assertiveness, we create space for positive relationships and experiences to flourish in our lives.

    – #ChoitalykRuman  ##ummeymiah

  • Finding Light in the Darkness: Trusting the Journey of Life”

    Photo captured by me . Location Cameron Park

    There was a time in my life when everything felt heavy, like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. Nothing seemed to go right, and no matter how much I tried, I couldn’t shake the feeling of being trapped in a cycle of pain and disappointment. I questioned everything—my purpose, my worth, even the reason for my existence. I felt lost, as if I were standing in the middle of a storm with no shelter in sight.

    One evening, lost in my thoughts, I stepped outside and looked up at the sky. The vastness of it took my breath away. It wasn’t just an empty space; it was alive with shifting clouds, twinkling stars, and the gentle glow of the moon. I realized that even the sky has its storms—moments of darkness and turbulence—but it also holds breathtaking sunrises, golden sunsets, and clear, peaceful nights. And isn’t that just like life? The ups and downs, the storms and the stillness—they all have their place in our journey. I began to understand that pain wasn’t a punishment; it was part of the process, shaping me into someone stronger, more compassionate, and more in tune with the deeper meaning of existence.

    As I stood there, staring at the vast sky, something inside me shifted. For so long, I had been consumed by the struggles in my life, focusing only on what was going wrong. I had forgotten to notice the small miracles happening all around me—the way the wind carried the scent of fresh earth after rain, the way birds still found a reason to sing at dawn, the way a single star could pierce through the deepest darkness. These little moments were reminders that life wasn’t just about hardship. It was about contrast—the sorrow and the joy, the loss and the renewal, the questions and the revelations.

    I started to reflect on my past, on all the moments I thought I wouldn’t survive. There were days when I was sure I had lost everything—days when the pain of failure, heartbreak, and uncertainty made me feel like I was drowning. But somehow, I made it through. And looking back, I realized that every struggle had shaped me, every challenge had taught me, and every delay had its own purpose. The hardest moments weren’t meant to break me; they were molding me into someone stronger, someone wiser. And perhaps, just like the sky after a storm, my life, too, was preparing for a clearer, brighter season.

    That night, as I whispered a quiet prayer, I didn’t ask for all my problems to disappear. Instead, I asked for strength, for patience, and for the clarity to see the beauty in my journey. And that’s what I want to share with you—no matter how lost or weary you feel right now, your story isn’t over. You are evolving, growing, and becoming. The pain you feel today is not the end; it’s a chapter in a much greater book, one that still has pages filled with love, hope, and new beginnings. Trust the process, embrace the journey, and know that even in the darkest nights, the stars are still shining for you.

    #ChoitalykRuman