Choitalyk Ruman's Corner

Tag: Spiritual Growth

  • When Life Feels Heavy, Gratitude Brings the Light Bac

    By Choitalyk Ruman

    For a long time, I used to think gratitude simply meant saying thank you. Someone helps you , you thank them. Something good happens , you express appreciation. Simple.

    But life, in its quiet and often difficult way, taught me something deeper: gratitude isn’t just a polite response. It’s a way of seeing. A way of living.

    We all go through days that feel impossibly heavy , when the air itself feels thick, and even ordinary tasks take too much energy. You wake up, sip your coffee, stare at the same walls, and wonder, “When will this feeling pass?”

    Have you ever had one of those mornings ; when nothing feels right, when even the light outside seems dull?

    I remember one of those times vividly. Everything in my life seemed to crumble at once ; plans failed, relationships shifted, and I couldn’t see any way forward. I was just… surviving.

    One morning, I heard a bird singing outside my window. Nothing special, it was a sound I’d heard a thousand times before. But that day, it stopped me. It felt like a tiny reminder whispering, “Not everything is broken.”

    And that’s when I began to understand:
    Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the hard things. It’s about recognizing the light that still exists , even when the world feels dim.

    When we start noticing the small things ;the warm cup of tea in our hands, a message from a friend, the sound of laughter nearby , something shifts inside us. The sharp edges of pain begin to soften. The world doesn’t change, but our eyes do.

    Gratitude doesn’t mean pretending life is perfect. It means realizing that even in imperfection, there is beauty. Even when something ends, something else quietly begins.

    Some days, gratitude is just a whisper:
    “I’m still here.”
    “I still have something to hold onto.”

    And that whisper is enough to keep us moving forward.

    So, take a moment today.
    Pause. Look around.
    Maybe your reason to smile is already right there , in the morning light, in the smell of fresh rain, or in someone’s gentle presence.

    Beauty never truly disappears.
    It just waits , patiently , for us to notice it again.

    What are three things you feel grateful for today?

    1. When was the last time a small moment changed your mood completely?
    2. Has gratitude ever helped you see something painful in a new light?

    Share your thoughts in the coments, your story might be the light someone else needs today..

  • Why We Feel More Invisible as We Get Older

    By #Choitalyk Ruman 10/07/2025

    The morning sun rose over quiet fields, brushing the sky with soft gold. Trees whispered to the wind, and the train I rode hummed gently along the tracks. I was on my way to visit my son and daughter-in-law when a kind-looking lady sat beside me.

    We began to talk, sharing stories about family and life. After a while, her voice grew softer. “I can’t tell when it started,” she said, “this slow feeling of fading away.”

    She paused and looked out the window.
    “Maybe it was the first time someone called me ma’am instead of my name. Or when a waiter gave the bill to my daughter instead of me. Or maybe it was the day I walked into a room and realized no one looked my way anymore.”

    Her eyes filled with quiet sadness. “It’s not that people don’t care,” she said. “It’s just that the world got louder… and I became quieter.”

    When we’re young, the world seems to spin around us. People ask what we want to do, where we want to go, what we dream about. But as we grow older, the questions change. They ask what we used to do, where we used to go, who we used to be.And little by little, it can feel like we’re fading into the background still here, still full of stories, but noticed less often. Like a lovely painting hanging on a wall, seen but rarely admired.

    One day, the lady told me, she sat on a park bench watching life rush by — parents pushing strollers, teens on their phones, joggers moving fast. No one looked up. No one noticed her.For a moment, she felt like part of the scenery instead of part of the story.Then something small — yet magical — happened.A little girl stopped in front of her and held out a bright yellow dandelion.“Here,” the child said softly, “you looked like you needed a flower.”The woman smiled. “Thank you, sweetheart.”The girl’s mother looked at her too, really looked, and smiled kindly. And in that simple moment, the woman felt light again — like someone had seen her heart.

    That day she realized something beautiful: being invisible doesn’t mean losing worth. It just means the world has forgotten how to slow down and see the quiet things — gentle eyes, kind hearts, and lives full of wisdom.So she made a choice.She would start seeing again.Now, she smiles at strangers, compliments the cashier’s earrings, and asks the fruit seller about his day. Sometimes people look surprised — as if kindness is a forgotten language — but soon, they smile back. And in that smile, two people become visible again.

    The truth is, growing older doesn’t make us disappear. The world just moves too fast to see the beauty in what is calm, steady, and wise.But we can remind it — through our warmth, our patience, and our light.We don’t fade away.We simply glow differently — like candlelight in a world full of flashing screens.

    As we grow older, we don’t vanish — we evolve. We become storytellers, quiet observers, and gentle hearts that help steady the world. The secret is simple: keep showing up, keep shining, and remind others to look, to listen, and to see the beauty that never fades.

  • Cherish the Moments Before They Slip Away

    Life moves swiftly, often feeling like a blur of responsibilities, challenges, and unexpected turns. It wasn’t until I experienced a deep moment of loss and reflection that I truly understood how precious time is. I remember a time when I gave my heart to someone, trusted them with my vulnerabilities, and believed they would stand by me in my hardest moments. But when I needed them the most, they weren’t there. The absence stung, leaving behind a hollow space where love once resided.

    I spent days questioning, wondering why love sometimes fails to hold its promise of companionship. At first, I felt pain and disappointment, but then I turned inward. Instead of seeking answers from the outside world, I embarked on a journey within—a journey of self-discovery, healing, and peace.

    I am trying to learn about myself, to live within the sound of my slow breathing, which moves like a soft-feathered bird. It is an extremely peaceful journey within me. As I sit in stillness, closing my physical eyes, I begin to see a magnificent view—not with my sight, but with my soul. Ahh! Feeling joy, happiness, clarity, steadiness, and calmness wash over me as I cleanse—cleansing, cleansing—releasing the weight of past sorrows, letting go of the pain, and expanding my consciousness. I realize that love is not just about who stays or who leaves; it is about the energy we cultivate within ourselves. Love is not something to be begged for—it is something to be radiated.

    And that’s when it hit me. Love is the most powerful door opener to the land of peace. With the key of love, everything becomes possible. Love is a creation, a force of transformation. In the blink of an eye, so much can change. A single careless word can cast a shadow over someone’s day, just as a loving word can brighten it. This is why we must be mindful—radiating love, speaking with kindness, and spreading warmth wherever we go.

    That experience taught me that love is not just about receiving; it is about giving freely, without expectations. If you love someone, let them know—not just through fleeting words, but through actions that leave no doubt. Be present. Show them that they matter. Because the perfect moment is not in the distant future—it is now. If we keep postponing love, we may one day realize its importance, but by then, the moment to express it may have already passed.

    But even beyond loving others, we must first love ourselves. Keep visiting your inner self, for that is where true peace resides. No need to search elsewhere—it is within your heart, waiting to be embraced. When we become love, when we become light, we become a source of peace not just for ourselves, but for the entire world.

    The world needs our love. Let’s give it freely.

    • #ChoitalykRuman
    • #UmmeyMiah

  • The Higher Mind: A Bridge to Inner Wisdom

    We often hear the term “Higher Mind,” but what does it truly mean? The Higher Mind is that deeper part of ourselves that embodies wisdom, self-awareness, and inner strength. It’s the guiding voice that helps us think beyond the present moment, making decisions that align with our core values, morals, and long-term goals. It’s the source of clarity that empowers us to live with purpose and intention.

    This aspect of ourselves is deeply connected to the soul. Think of the Higher Mind as a bridge—a connection between the ego, or “lower mind,” and the spirit. While the ego helps us navigate the material world, the Higher Mind assists us in exploring realms beyond the physical.

    The ego operates through a lens of limitation, seeing the world and others as separate from ourselves. It interprets life through our personal beliefs and perceived limitations. In contrast, the Higher Mind views reality through a lens of unity and infinite possibility.

    When we look through the ego’s perspective, we often see the world and people as divided—unequal, separated by space and circumstances. But the Higher Mind sees things differently. It recognizes that everything is made up of energy, from physical objects to the air we breathe. What the ego perceives as empty space is actually energy, and this energy connects everything.

    Even our thoughts are composed of energy, vibrating at different frequencies. The Higher Mind sees thoughts and physical objects as intertwined, both made from the same substance—energy, just vibrating at different rates. Every thought, every object has its own unique frequency, but they are all fundamentally part of the same energetic whole.

    By tuning into the Higher Mind, we open ourselves to this broader perspective, moving beyond the ego’s limitations to experience the deeper connections that unite us with everything around us.

    Examples of Ego vs. Higher Mind

    Consider how we experience conflict with others. When operating from the ego, we often feel hurt, defensive, or angry. The ego views the disagreement as a personal attack, reinforcing the idea of separation between “me” and “them.” However, when we engage the Higher Mind, we see beyond the surface. We begin to understand the other person’s emotions, motivations, and perspectives, recognizing that we are all connected by a shared humanity. In this state, we approach conflict with compassion, seeking understanding instead of division.

    Another example can be found in decision-making. The ego tends to focus on immediate, self-centered desires. Imagine someone is offered a promotion at work that comes with more money but also more stress and longer hours. The ego might jump at the chance because it values status and material gain. However, the Higher Mind might pause to consider the long-term effects on well-being and relationships, guiding the person to make a decision that aligns with their values and ultimate happiness, rather than short-term rewards.

    In terms of creativity, the ego often stifles ideas with fear of judgment or failure. A person may have a strong desire to start a new project but stops themselves because the ego fears ridicule or rejection. The Higher Mind, however, sees creative expression as an unfolding of one’s true self and encourages the person to take action without worrying about external validation. It allows ideas to flow freely, trusting in the process rather than being attached to the outcome.

    Finally, think about how we perceive success. From an ego-driven viewpoint, success is often tied to external achievements—money, recognition, or titles. But the Higher Mind understands that true success is internal. It’s about personal growth, fulfillment, and living in alignment with our deeper purpose. This shift in perspective allows us to find peace and contentment regardless of external circumstances, as we realize that success is a state of being rather than something to attain.

    By learning to tap into the Higher Mind more frequently, we can navigate life with a sense of unity, purpose, and clarity, free from the limitations imposed by the ego. This shift in perception transforms how we interact with the world, leading to more meaningful and fulfilling experiences.

    ‘#ChoitalykRuman #ummeymiah

  • The Struggle is Resistance: Embracing the Power of Your Breath

    These are confusing times. It’s no surprise if you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Life seems to be demanding more from us than ever, pulling us in multiple directions. But in the midst of this chaos, there is one constant—a gentle reminder that we are still alive, that we still have power within us: our breath.

    Take a deep breath now. Feel the air entering your body. Imagine that, with every inhale, you are drawing in vitality, strength, and clarity. Your breath is always a reflection of you. It tells the story of where you are in this moment.

    Now, pause. Observe this inhale without judgment, without trying to change it. How do you feel? Does your breath come easily? Is it nourishing, or does it feel strained? When our breath feels restricted, it’s often a sign that we’re struggling with life’s pressures, feeling as if we can’t take in enough—enough air, enough peace, enough balance.

    And that’s okay.

    The key here is to observe rather than judge. Be curious about what your breath is telling you. Now, let’s move to the exhale. Just as the inhale represents our ability to take in life, the exhale reflects how we let go. Are you able to release the air gently, or do you feel like you’re forcing it out? Do you hold on tightly to your breath, to your stress, to your thoughts?

    Exhaling is about letting go—not just of air but of tension, negativity, and everything we no longer need. With each breath out, imagine releasing the weight that burdens your heart and mind. When you learn to exhale fully and with ease, you create space for balance and peace.

    In this moment, be gentle with yourself. Life can be noisy and confusing, but you are not alone. You are a child of the universe, a miraculous creation of the Divine—yes, the One God. You are no less a part of this universe than the trees, the stars, or the vast oceans. And just like them, you have a place in this world.

    When life becomes overwhelming, remember to keep peace in your soul. Return to your heart, because your heart is your true home, an endless ocean of love, kindness, tenderness, and compassion. That place within you is where you recharge, where your soul finds nourishment. Visit it often.

    If I can do this, so can you. We all have untapped potential within us, waiting to be discovered. The beauty of life is that this journey of self-discovery is always available to us, even in the most challenging times. All you need to do is breathe, pause, and remember who you are.